5 Tips on Building a Long-Term Relationship

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When we meet that special person they make us feel attractive, loved and unique and we feel like we’ve discovered true love. Sparks are flying between you and that special someone, and the intimate bond seems inseparable. However, as your relationship matures, the reality of long-term relationships is that it takes work to transition from the infatuation of new love into a mature long term relationship. This process necessitates a deeper understanding of both yourself and your partner. The honeymoon phase doesn’t last, and by understanding yourself and your partner more deeply, you create the foundation of a resilient and long-lasting relationship. So how does one continue to maintain a healthy, intimate, loving relationship with their partner?

Here are five tips to keep in mind of building a long-lasting relationship

1. Developing goals for your ideal long-term relationship:

When getting into a relationship, it is essential for couples to evaluate what they seek in a long-term relationship. Whether it be values or goals, it is crucial that you and your partner are on the same page. By gaining a deeper understanding of each other’s core values, you begin to understand how you can support each other in achieving the goals which provide the meaning in life.

2. Mindfulness in a relationship:

The process of mindfulness allows couples to become less instinctual in their responses to one another. Some of the worst words and actions are expressed in moments of fight/flight/freeze. Mindfulness allows couples to stay aware of negative patterns of thoughts, communication, and action to treat each other with empathy even in times of emotional stress.

3. Establishing and maintaining a respectful communication style:

Communication is at the foundation of healthy relationships. Developing the ability to be kind and honest while discussing complicated subject matter increases the likelihood of healthy conflict resolution. As partners, you should be able to communicate with one another about issues and conflicts that arise in the relationship. Everyone has their style of communication, and it is vital to establish and maintain a form of communication that works well for both.

4. Learning to express feelings, needs, and expectations in a healthy manner:

Often couples become stuck in patterns of re-stating their perspectives in the hopes to convince their partner to agree with them. When couples develop the ability to identify and healthily express their feelings and needs, they increase the likelihood of being heard. By helping your partner understand how you are feeling without blaming them, you create an environment of compassion and love that transcends perspective.

5. Consistent Conflict Resolution:

Every couple has their fights disagreements are both natural and needed in a healthy relationship. The key is to have the tools to resolve conflict healthily. When couples find themselves arguing about the same topic over and over without resolution, resentment quickly builds. By understanding you and your partner’s conflict resolution style, you can avoid repetitive arguments which pull you apart.

The beginning of relationships is filled with the excitement of new love; with awareness and intentional effort, couples can make the transition to a mature and long-lasting relationship. When you find the person you want to be with it is crucial that you put the time and effort into gaining a deep understanding of each other. Your relationship can be a source of immense love and also help you in becoming your best selves for each other.