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Tarah and EJ interview Robin Memel Fox MA, BC-DMT, LPC, Board-certified Dance/Movement Therapist with over 25 years of experience working in the field of mental health and wellness. Robin has worked with individuals, couples, families and children in both community mental health and treatment centers. She has extensive expertise in trauma, relationships, addiction and couples/family systems.
This episode explores trauma and its effects on individuals and couples. They define trauma, explore treatment options and help couples learn how trauma can create challenges in self-regulation and conflict resolution. The concept of Embodied Healing is explored, which can help couples become more in tune with themselves in order to feel more connected with their partner.
Info on Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) and Post Childhood Experiences (PCEs)
Books on understanding trauma and healing (not exhaustive list):
- The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk M.D.
- Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma by Peter Levine
- Transforming the Living Legacy of Trauma: A Workbook for Survivors and Therapists by Janina Fisher
- The Complex PTSD Workbook by Arielle Schwartz, PhD
- The Post-traumatic Growth Workbook by Arielle Schwartz, PhD
- Healing Developmental Trauma, How early trauma affects self-regulation, self-image, and the capacity for relationship by Laurence Heller, PhD and Aline LaPierre, PsyD
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Often couples avoid addressing issues for various reasons. When they don’t communicate their frustrations or needs, negative feelings can build, and they can begin to express negative emotions in an ineffective way that pulls them apart. Tarah and EJ discuss why couples can become conflict-avoidant and how this can backfire and create more conflict. By creating agreements with your partner about how and when you will communicate frustrations, you can create systems that foster honest and kind communication.
In this episode, Tarah and EJ discuss how couples can slowly become distant throughout the course of their relationship. They explore the ups and downs of intimate relationships and some of the common reasons couples end up struggling to feel excited and attracted to one another. They discuss the excitement of the “honeymoon phase” and how many couples become disappointed and distant when intimacy diminishes. They discuss the concept of habituation and how this stresses many relationships in a very subtle way. They offer their expert couples counseling advice and share strategies to sustain loving connect and help couples avoid looking outside of their relationship for love and affection.
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