The modern world is full of distractions and obligations. This may lead to increased stress that can cause strain within your relationship with your partner. Mindfulness is a great solution for busy couples to connect with each other. The simplest definition of mindfulness is that it requires you being fully present and focusing your awareness on the moment, rather than being distracted by outside concerns.
These mindfulness exercises can help improve your sense of connection with your partner:
Meditate Together or Separately
Meditation is a great exercise for feeling more connected to the present moment. Mindfulness meditation involves focusing on your breathing and paying attention to how your body feels. You also let your mind wander without judgement of your thoughts. Thismay seem like a solitary activity, but it is energizing and rewarding to meditate with your partner.
Set aside time to mediate as often as you can, whether this is once a day or once a week. You can sit in the same room while you are meditating and discuss your experience afterward. Mindfulness can improve your general mental health and you can also experience benefits if you meditate separately. Meditating alone can help you achieve positivity that you can share with your partner.
One of the best things you can do to cultivate a healthy relationship is to express appreciation for your partner. Feeling underappreciated in a relationship can lead to arguments and resentment. By showing your appreciation for your partner you can help deepen your connection.
Affirming appreciation in a mindful way requires more than simply complimenting your partner. You should both be fully present in the moment. When you have an appreciation you wish to share, ask your partner if he or she has time to hear what you have to say. Then you should sit down together while you share what you appreciate and why it mattered to you. Adding mindfulness to the act of telling your partner something you love about them makes it much more impactful.
Mindfulness During Arguments
When you are in the middle of a confrontation, mindfulness can seem especially difficult. You get so caught up in your thoughts and emotions that you may not truly listen to what your partner is telling you. In arguments, mindfulness is about listening completely and striving to understand what the other person feels and needs.
Cultivating mindfulness in these stressful situations takes regular practice. You should always be reminding yourself to stay engaged and to stay open to your partner’s emotions. If you find yourself going back to old habits, such as prioritizing your own feelings and invalidating those of your partner, then you should acknowledge and correct this. The more you practice, the easier it will be.
If you are finding it difficult to put mindfulness into practice in your daily life, we can provide professional help. He Said She Said couples counseling sessions focus on mindfulness as we strive to help you stay more present and to connect more deeply with each other. Call us today to learn more about our programs. We offer a free consultation to ensure we are the right fit for you.