Long-term committed relationships are the very base level of connectivity within our culture. They are the building blocks of families, which make up our schools, community organizations, businesses and every other facet of our society. With a divorce rate of over 47%, it is easy to see that in order to begin to build a happier, healthier and more stable society we must focus on the wellness of intimate, committed relationships. Without a solid foundation, the most structurally sound building cannot withstand the ebbs and flows of life as time passes. However, couples rarely take time to work on their relationship unless they reach a point of crisis.
Everything in life becomes much more manageable when individuals feel safe and supported in their relationships. Work and parenting are natural stress inducers; both are easier to navigate when individuals feel safe and secure in their relationship. They have confidence in the fact that they will be loved and accepted no matter what happens. This security allows individuals to feel a sense of freedom in their decision-making. The comfort of knowing that another individual accepts and loves them unconditionally allows individuals to remain confident and creative.
Belongingness and Love are the gateways in Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs between the basic needs of shelter and food, the building of self-esteem, and the progression of meeting one’s full potential. A stable and loving relationship gives individuals the confidence that even if there is a threat to their base needs (security/safety,), they will be supported and loved. By building this resilience and durability, they have the potential to build the self-assurance to work towards being their best self.
With this in mind, we can benefit from taking steps early in a relationship to create healthy communication, intimacy, and emotional connectivity. By doing so we can create more stability in families, communities and throughout our society.